Either You Have It or You Don't

Sometimes things work exactly the way you wantBlock after block, hands and feet growing numb, until
them to. Sometimes, I have trouble rememberingfinally he came to the high school entrance. It was
when that has happened for me but I'm sure it haslocked. A custodian looked out at him,
at least once in my life. But that is the point I make."Are you crazy? No one is going to come out on a
We don't really remember the times when everynight like this! The school is closed!" Then he shut the
thing falls into place just perfectly. Why is that?door.
Maybe it is because we work so hard to haveHow many of us would have made the trip in the
complete control over our lives in every last aspectfirst place? Very, very few, for sure. But, even if we
and every nook and cranny, that we are surprisedhad, how many of us would have cursed the closed
with the "unexpected". When really, the unexpecteddoor, the custodian, the snow, the wind, the day, the
should be just the opposite, expected. What wecircumstance?
most often focus on is when the unexpected is lessNow he had to turn around and retrace his steps. As
than positive. Usually, it is a kick in the shin or a slugthe wind whipped around him and the snow
in the gut that takes the wind out of us. But whencontinued to fall he came to a realization. Out of two
the unexpected is something that is positive, it isthousand students, he was the only one to make his
"surprising" to us and we call it inspirational.way through the night and these awful conditions
I submit that many times most anything istoshow up for class. He was the only one that did
inspirational if we choose to look at it with the rightwhat it took to go the extra mile, to show the extra
attitude. That is, without anger, blame and with faitheffort, to reach deep inside when every fiber of his
we can learn a lot from the unexpected. Take, forbeing wanted to quit, and to keep going when all
example, the following story.others didn't.
Bernard Castro immigrated to New York City fromAt that precise moment he knew he had what it
Sicily while in his teens. One night it was snowing withtakes to succeed. From that moment, which he
the kind of cold that chilled to the bone. He waschose to view with extraordinary perspective, he
signed up for a night class at DeWitt Clinton Highknew the will that had pushed him across New York
School to learn English. Fromhis cheap room on theCity on that cold and miserable night would sustain
East side he watched the snow come down until ithim. He never forgot that moment or that night.
was a foot deep and traffic was stopped. The windThis happened many, many years ago and Bernard
was howling and he did not want to go all the wayCastro worked his way through the Great
over to the West Side to the class because he didn'tDepression and opened his own business. Which was
have any money and he would be walking the entirequite an achievement in itself. What is remarkable
way.about him is that his ability to see the hidden value
He was exhausted from working all day as anand potential around him resulted in a discovery made
upholsterer and knew his coat would be no matchmany years later that changed his life forever.
for the cold wind and his shoes too thin to keep theHis upholstery business grew into an interior design
freezing wet snow from turning his feet to ice. As hebusiness and then into making furniture. One day he
stood looking at the weather outside his window, hewatched as a bunk on a friend's cabin cruiser was
remembered something he had read in thefolded up and convertedinto a seat. He had an idea.
newspaper a few days before. A columnist had saidHe designed the Castro convertible sofa bed which
that the difference between success and failure waswas slimmer and more attractive than the design of
often the simple willingness to make the extra effort,the day. It made him famous and wealthy.
go the extra mile and endure the extrahardship.However, he became a success a long time before,
Either you had this quality or you didn't.that one night on the icy cold streets of New York
Slowly he pulled on his thin coat and put a scarfCity.
around his neck and made his way into the night.