| "The only difference between a rut and a
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| | vu" - we've been here before.- Arguing
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| grave are the dimensions."Q: My wife and
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| | and bickering just for something to
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| I are both on our second marriage. We
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| | doWhat Not To DoWe all try to solve the
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| feel like we are both losing some of our
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| | problem of relationship ruts in our own
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| excitement and love for each other, just
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| | way. Here are some solutions that I've
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| like is our first marriages. We feel like
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| | seen couples try that are worth
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| we are stuck in a rut. What can we do to
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| | avoiding;- Keep doing the same things
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| get out of this rut?A: You've not only
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| | over and over and expect different
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| asked an excellent question, it's even
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| | results- Blame your partner or accuse
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| been asked in song.In "Make Love Stay"
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| | them of being boring- Convince yourself
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| Dan Fogelberg asks,"Now that we've loved,
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| | that life would be much more fun with
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| Now that the lonely nights are over
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| | someone else- Make major changes just for
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| How do we make love stay?"New
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| | the sake of change. For example, move
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| relationshipsNew relationships are
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| | (just a geographical cure) or have a
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| exciting. The thrill of falling in love
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| | child.What To DoHaving said all that,
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| and discovering new things about each
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| | here are a few suggestions for breaking
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| other is simply a lot of fun.After the
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| | out of relationship ruts;- Begin by
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| honeymoon stage of a relationship has
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| | remembering what is was that first
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| passed, we move into the "making it work"
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| | attracted you to this person in the first
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| stage of the relationship. Sometimes the
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| | place. You may have forgotten some things
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| making it work stage is just not as much
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| | and may be surprised by what you
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| fun as the honeymoon stage. This is where
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| | remember- Do something "safely out of
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| the work part of making it work comes
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| | character." In the song "Dirt Gets Under
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| in.One of the dangers of the making it
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| | The Fingernails" by Harry Chapin, the
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| work stage is to fall into what I call
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| | prim, proper and neat wife goes out and
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| relationship ruts. A relationship rut is
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| | buys art supplies and makes a mess while
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| when as a couple you begin to feel as if
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| | the always dirty mechanic husband gets a
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| you are stuck, sort of going through the
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| | shave, hair cut, manicure and new
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| motions and not getting anywhere.This is
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| | clothes. Surprise each other.- Do some of
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| the point that some relationships die,
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| | the things you may have enjoyed as a
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| because the only difference between a rut
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| | child: buy a coloring book, some play
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| and a grave are the dimensions.Let's take
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| | dough, put on some roller skates, etc.-
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| a look at some of the signs of
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| | Use your creativity! One way to do this
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| relationship ruts and what not to do, and
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| | would be to brainstorm all the crazy,
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| then what to do to get out of the rut and
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| | absurd, and ridiculous ideas you can
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| keep the spark alive.Signs of
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| | think of, that you would never do. Then
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| Relationship RutsOne sure sign and
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| | go back over your list and see if there
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| conclusive evidence of a relationship rut
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| | are the seeds for some useful creative
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| is if the following conversation sounds
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| | solutions.- Make a list of all the things
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| familiar -"What do want to do tonight?"
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| | you like to do for fun. Then pick one you
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| "I don't know, whatever you want to do."
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| | that you may not have in a very long
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| | time.As the songwriter says, making love
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| "I don't know what I want to do,
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| | stay can be one of the more difficult
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| whatever you want to do is fine."
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| | tasks in relationships. Avoiding and/or
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| "Where do you want to eat?"
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| | getting out of relationships ruts can go
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| "I don't know, where do you want to
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| | a long way to keeping the spark alive.For
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| eat?"
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| | f'ree weekly tips and tools for growing
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| ETC - ETC - ETC - yuck!Other signs of
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| | your relationship and keeping it strong,
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| relationship ruts include;- Doing the
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